Stressors in the Family, or the home my be caused by:
Bills/ money, children, car payments, house, conflicts, school, relationships, food, disciplining, disagreements, and in-laws.
Bills/ money, children, car payments, house, conflicts, school, relationships, food, disciplining, disagreements, and in-laws.
Crisis': They are traumatic, they ARE challenges, they are out of our control, and they are permanent.
People see these crisis' as detrimental, but they do not have to be. It really all depends how people look at it, and how they take in the experience. If you look at the Chinese symbols for Crisis, it demonstrates something that opens up the mind a bit.
Crisis: Danger/ opportunity.
Yes, they may be difficult to get through, and yes, they might really suck, but what they truly are is an opportunity to learn and grow.
If we also look at the ABC Model, it demonstrates how and why people can actually grow from these traumatic experiences.
Actual Event
+ Both Resources and Responses
Cognition (Perception)
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TOTAL EXPERIENCE
How people respond to these crisis', comes soulfully on how they Perceive them. There are many terrible events that can happen in a family, and those events can tear people apart... but they DON'T have to! It's not easy, but these events can help people grow more than anything. In the end, they can come out stronger than they were at the beginning.
One thing I find important to remember while getting through a crisis, is it's important to go through them with your spouses, and keeping them involved. People tend to begin to lean towards other family members, like sisters brothers, or parents. Because of that, they grow away from their spouses, and it causes the problems to be harder, and even more detrimental. Husband and wife need to continue to be the team! No matter what! With problems, and anything really, they need to go to each other before anybody else... EVER!!
This is where COPING comes into play.
What is Coping?? It could be defined as these things: Dealing with/ getting by/ and getting by with distractions.
One way families can be more prepared is by prepping each other before any crisis ever happens. Coping ahead of time helps the family to know what to do if a situation were to happen. Nobody plans and waits around expecting every bad thing to happen, and more times than not, those crisis' do not happen, but nobody knows if these things will occur. It's best to be prepared beforehand. It gives the family something to hold on to to help pull each other up and out.
Yes, they may be difficult to get through, and yes, they might really suck, but what they truly are is an opportunity to learn and grow.
If we also look at the ABC Model, it demonstrates how and why people can actually grow from these traumatic experiences.
Actual Event
+ Both Resources and Responses
Cognition (Perception)
-------------------------------------
TOTAL EXPERIENCE
How people respond to these crisis', comes soulfully on how they Perceive them. There are many terrible events that can happen in a family, and those events can tear people apart... but they DON'T have to! It's not easy, but these events can help people grow more than anything. In the end, they can come out stronger than they were at the beginning.
One thing I find important to remember while getting through a crisis, is it's important to go through them with your spouses, and keeping them involved. People tend to begin to lean towards other family members, like sisters brothers, or parents. Because of that, they grow away from their spouses, and it causes the problems to be harder, and even more detrimental. Husband and wife need to continue to be the team! No matter what! With problems, and anything really, they need to go to each other before anybody else... EVER!!
This is where COPING comes into play.
What is Coping?? It could be defined as these things: Dealing with/ getting by/ and getting by with distractions.
One way families can be more prepared is by prepping each other before any crisis ever happens. Coping ahead of time helps the family to know what to do if a situation were to happen. Nobody plans and waits around expecting every bad thing to happen, and more times than not, those crisis' do not happen, but nobody knows if these things will occur. It's best to be prepared beforehand. It gives the family something to hold on to to help pull each other up and out.
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